Ok, I’m just going to be honest with you. When I read the Bible there are things that I’m told to do, but either I don’t know how to do it, or I don’t want to do it. Here’s one of them…
“Tremble, and do not sin; meditate in your heart upon your bed, and be still.” Psalm 4:4 NASB
That word “tremble” caught my eye because I wanted to know what I was dealing with and wasn’t supposed to sin while doing it. It’s in reference to anger. It’s saying not to let our anger control us and turn it into something we’ll regret later.
But here’s my dilemma – I’m a pretty emotional guy. I don’t usually hold much back. My problem is: when I get angry I don’t hear to well – or at least I can’t hear what I’m supposed to hear because my anger gets in the way. When I get emotional I have a tendency to make bad decisions. I don’t know if this relates to any of you, but the Holy Spirit is sure speaking to me! If you’re anything like me, you react with the wrong words… the wrong look… the wrong decisions.
That’s why this Psalm writer was telling us to get that anger and all of our emotions in check beforehand. If we don’t, you and I are going to miss what God is trying to tell us. And when we’re emotionally angry, we’re going to find ourselves taking the wrong advice from people who don’t have our best interest in mind and then discounting the ones who do. That’s why texting and emails can be so poisonous, because we read between the lines, inflect our own voices, depending on how emotional we are about the conversation.
When we’re emotional or angry, we tend to make small stuff larger than life itself. We argue just for the sake of arguing. We misread that email and now we won’t answer the phone. We replay the hurt over and over again and then the thinking begins and we think everyone is against us.
Here’s my word of encouragement for you today: Take a deep breath, calm down, relax. Read Psalm 4:4 again. When we’re angry, we have a tendency to believe those that hurt us did it maliciously and intentionally. Maybe some did, but for the majority, maybe not until you just stop, ponder, put the best construction on everything and let it go. I know you probably want to respond, but wait. You already have the words formulated, but don’t. You want them to hurt like you hurt, but stop. Don’t react out of anger or emotion. Sit in the stillness of God and He’ll give you the right response. Let Him deal with you first. The Bible says…
“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1 NASB
Help me to think before I react. Put a watch on my mouth and my thoughts. In Jesus name I ask this, Amen.
Rev. Dr. MM Marxhausen